Monday, February 29, 2016

More attractive than appearance

Okay so there are some pretty nice looking people out there in the world. You may be thinking of a celebrity or maybe your crush, or both!
The world seems to be pushing for everyone, girls and guys, to have this "perfect" look. We rate each other "oh you're a ten girl!" or "yeah, I would say a six tops."
I'm sorry, but that's just wrong.
It seems everyone is supposed to be in this overall fit of "hot" and "attractive" and if you don't fit into the world's impossible standard of perfect beauty and ideals for appearance it makes it really easy for self-hate to creep in, and really easy to believe the people who are telling you you're ugly.

Our world is so obsessed with the outward appearance they forget what is really important.
Many people say that they would date someone based on looks alone, which is absurd.
I mean yes we're all attracted to peoples outward appearance first off, but if you're interested, really interested in someone you should be looking at more than that. Not to mention if the only thing you love about your partner is they're looks, there are going to be major problems.
So here are three ideas to me of what should be more important to us than outward appearance. Some of them seem really obvious, but if you think about it there's a lot more to it.

1. Personality- okay, I know this seems like something really obvious, but it's worth stating even if it is obvious. There's so much to people, and what makes them who they are. Same for you.
People can be super extroverted and outgoing around their friends and but quiet and seemingly shy around people they don't know.
Maybe they're an introvert and you rarely hear talk, but they have brilliant ideas and so much love to give.
Maybe they love hugs, maybe they don't. Everyone is different.
How they react to problems, how they treat other people, how they treat their family, the things they think are right and wrong, what they like and what they don't like. Do they have a logic based mind or a more creative one?
optimistic or pessimistic? What are they afraid of?
There's a lot that goes on in a person's mind, and many things that piece together are personalities.
If you pay attention and get to know someone you can tell a lot about them without even asking.

2. Passion for goals and dreams.
Someone who knows what they like and what they want to do, watching them live up to their potential, go for the things they want to achieve and the person they want to be.
Or even if they don't know exactly what they want to do they still have dreams, passions. Maybe it's music, or writing, or helping people in need.
Maybe they want to start a business some day, go into the military, be a youth pastor.
Even if they don't have all the pieces put together(cause I mean really, who does?)
but they're still fallowing their dreams and the talents that God has given them, that is still pretty darn attractive. I don't know, maybe it's just me but watching someone go after their dreams, talk about their plans and passions always makes me smile.

3. Faith
The most important thing someone you like/are dating should have.
I'll just say this now, if he/she is not a believer than back away, now! Don't get emotionally attached to someone who you would be unequally yoked with.
This person should pursue God more than they ever pursue you(same to be said about you)
Them having a personal relationship with God, hearing them sing, and be a true disciple of God should be like the most attractive thing about them.
They won't have it all together(none of us do) but the fact that they're trying is a good start.

1 Peter 3:3-4
Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God's sight is very precious.

This isn't just talking to girls. The overall idea is: don't let your true "attractiveness" come from the outside. 

So see the value in things other than appearance. Look for the good things.
The person you like may not be "hot" in the eyes of the world, but you've seen their personality, their faith, and their dreams, and you think they're cute. So you know what? What the world thinks is irrelevant. :)